Friday night, date night. Candlelit dinner, dressing up and spending the night at some fancy restaurant. That's the most common association with dating I think. Even if that's a lot of fun, specially the dressing up part, it's not our kind of date. We've been talking a lot, my husband and I, about the dating culture. Since social media is such a big part of our lives you more often see couples showing off their dating life. And the most common thing you see, the dinners.
Ever since we got together, I feel like we've been a bit different. We have explored our own ways of doing things. Such as dating. We think that every couple should find their own way of spending that quality time with each other, and not only think of dinners as the main alternative for dating. There are so many other ways of dating.
For us a date night can be an evening spent in Andreas' workshop with both of us being creative. Most times I bring my knitting, but this time I brought my colouring book. Even if the both of us have our main focus on the things we're creating, it's so cosy to make it together and share our thought.
Dating is all about spending relaxed time with each other to catch up and see the person you fell in love with. When we got together we used to spend time just like this. Creating stuff together. It's one of the things that defines us as a couple, it is who we are.
This summer we had a revelation. We we're out on a dinner date, and after the dinner we went for a walk in a park. We walked around and looked at all the trees. We realised that the trees had been the best part of the date. The thing is, my husband isn't himself a lot of the times we spend eating at restaurants. He feels like he should be in a certain way to fit the traditional date, which isn't who he is.
So we made the decision to from then on spend the majority of our dates in a non-traditional way. To spend more time doing things that we are comfortable with. You should do the things you love with the person you love.