Spent yesterday evening at a dinner with some very dear friends. Great food, discussions and the autumn darkness gathering around the house. Candles burning and warming us as the night came crawling.
We were asked a question: "What one thing would you like to add to your life?" When you really think about it, what is it that you need, that would bring a new dimension to your life? The answers that came varied, from courage to time and not having to care about money. But one of the answers got me thinking, to be present, to actually listen and be there for the ones around us. It's too often we don't listen, we zoom out for a bit whilst someone is talking and telling their story. And it's so sad that we are unable to focus on another person without having to think about the next thing we can add to a discussion that is about ourselves.
The thing is, we all have a longing to be heard, to be seen and taken seriously. But that won't happen as long as we can't listen to anyone else without interrupting. We hide ourselves too much behind screens these days, our phones are always present which leads to us being not present.
I am constantly challenging myself to not have my phone with me on the table when I have a cup of tea with someone. This way I don't even have a chance to be distracted by it. It will give you so much more if you actually listen and care about the people around you.